gaslighther is born

You know the story – it’s probably happened to you.  You do all the work, the men get all the credit, the cash and the career progression.

Maybe you’re excluded from a meeting which is important to your job, decisions are made, actions are agreed (but probably not assigned), and everyone goes on their merry way.

Nothing goes to plan, because there wasn’t one, and it all goes to pot.  That’s when they get you involved, to come fix it, which you do, and they again get all the credit for a well-executed project.

Or your boss asks you to do a piece of work, and once complete he forwards it on, with the tagline – “We” have prepared this report for xyz.  He may or may not cc you, but he certainly doesn’t credit you.

Or your manager arranges a leaving party for someone in the team, and invites everyone except you.  You’ve worked with them for five months.  They all leave for lunch and don’t tell you that they are not coming back for the rest of the day.  A month later, on your own last day, same manager asks you if you want to go for a leaving lunch – for the sole reason of having an excuse to go to the pub for the afternoon and “legitimately” charging it back to the company on his expenses.  That one happened to me. 

Actually all of the above situations happened to me, and I have shared some of those stories